Anger Management Tips

Here are a few time-tested tips of anger management −

• Thinking before Speaking − Collect your thoughts before saying anything.

• Expressing Anger Calmly − State thoughts clearly without hurting others.

• Exercising − Spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.

• Timeouts − Some moments of silence can help you focus your thoughts.

• Identifying Solutions − Instead of thinking what makes you angry, try to find a resolution to the issue.

• Use 'I' statements − Say, "I’ve been waiting to check your presentation," instead of, "You never finish your work within deadlines."

• Don't grudge − It's unrealistic to expect everyone to perform by your guidelines. Forgiving and forgetting can take a lot of negative emotion out of your system.

• Use humor − Use humor to dissipate the situation without turning it hostile.

• Practice relaxation skills − Practice deep-breathing, listening to music.

• Seek help − Consider seeking professional help if your anger is absolutely uncontrollable.

Try it Yourself

Recall a situation that made you angry, and another one that caused you to turn violent in anger. Now compare both the situations and fill in the form.

• What makes you angry? How would you react to this situation?

• What behavior you want to avoid the most when you experience anger?

• What will be your alternative line of action?

• How will you deal with the early warning signs of anger?

• How will you behave when you are very angry?

Download Try-it yourself sheet.